3 WAYS PINTEREST CAN BE HARMFUL TO A BRIDE

 
By: Kristen Soileau Portraits

By: Kristen Soileau Portraits

First off, I’d like to start by letting everyone know that I am a huge fan of Pinterest. Huge, huge fan. I can actually remember the day I got "invited to join" several years ago. This was back when you actually had to be invited to join.

I was sitting in my friend’s apartment and she asked me if I knew what “Pinterest” was. Upon hearing that I was unfamiliar with it, she ran into her room to grab her laptop and began showing me the awesomeness that is Pinterest. 

I couldn’t wait to get home to set up my account, create my boards and then “pin” away my heart’s desires. 

I'd also like to say that I absolutely used Pinterest when planning my wedding. It is a great tool for inspiration and ideas when dreaming up the day you say, "I do." The key word being: tool

Thank goodness for all the wedding planning aids out there: wedding planning books, to-do lists, bridal magazines, wedding coordinators, Pinterest. 

But, Pinterest can become harmful when... 

  • ...you use it as your measuring stick. If your Pinterest wedding board is your idea of perfection and you set your level of expectation only at what you've pinned, you're bound to be disappointed. Pinterest is filled with beautiful photos of to-die-for groom's cakes, perfectly decorated wedding venues, swoon-worthy seating charts and tables set to the tee. But, we have to remember that we don't know the story behind the photos. These are people living in different areas of the world, dealing with different wedding budgets, working with different resources. You have to be okay with the fact that you may not be able to replicate every thing you've pinned.

  • ...you let your idealism get the best of you. Planning a wedding is a dreamy task, the dreamiest if you ask me! But, along with your optimism and idealism, you need a realistic perspective when pinning ideas for your wedding day. When I learned that some of the pins on my wedding board would have cost $50,000+ to pull off, I realized that my pins were there to give me inspiration for how I could incorporate the ideas to work within our budget.

  • ...you let "you" disappear. In my opinion, this is the most important reason. Your wedding day exists to celebrate the uniting of you and your spouse. Therefore, your wedding should reflect elements of you and your spouse's personality. Don't get lost in what everyone else chose for their wedding. There are no rights and wrongs. There are no rules and guidelines. Let your day reflect you as much as possible. Don't let your wedding day become a collection of other's ideas–put your own spin on things! You'll be glad that you did.

Don't get me wrong, Pinterest is not a bad thing. It is such an incredible resource for networking, information and inspiration. There are many ways to use Pinterest in a positive way when wedding planning.

  • Allow it to foster your creativity. Scrolling through Pinterest can help get the wheels turning as you're planning your own wedding.

  • Let it expand your knowledge. Pinterest has more than just pretty pictures. There are lots of infographics and articles to give you advice/guidance during your engagement!

  • Ask yourself how you can make an idea your own. If you find a pin you love, ask yourself how you can add your own personal touch to it. It's the little details that make your wedding unique to you.

Pin away, beautiful brides–just be cautious and be yourselves!

 

PICK 5 WORDS TO DESCRIBE YOUR WEDDING DAY

 

Planning a wedding can be incredibly overwhelming. I don't think I've ever had to make so many decisions in my life.

Flowers. Invitations. Fonts. Decor. Guest book. Favors. Suits. Bridesmaids dresses. Colors. Centerpieces. Send-off. Catering. Programs. Bouquets. Wedding party gifts. Ties. Hair and makeup. Venue. Music. Lighting. 

From the time you get engaged to the time you walk down the aisle, it can seem like a never-ending journey of decisions to make.

During the beginning of my engagement, I became anxious over the things I used to look forward to planning. What is "me?" What is "us?" What describes my "style?" What if I like a piece of decor, but it doesn't "go" with everything else? 

I decided to pick 5 words to describe my wedding. This was one of the most helpful things I did when wedding planning, and I encourage every bride to do the same. This can have to do with theme, color, atmosphere, feel, etc. These are your words.

So, close your eyes and envision your wedding day. From the time you wake up until the end of the reception, what words come to your mind?

Southern, rustic, vintage, country, fun.

Traditional, classy, elegant, romantic, fancy.

Modern, whimsical, artsy, edgy, industrial.

Floral, garden, antique, bohemian, lovely.

Once you choose your words, scrolling through Pinterest and flipping through magazines won't be so daunting. When you can envision your wedding and the words to describe it, it instantly becomes easier to plan. You will begin filtering every decision you have to make through your 5-word sifter.

Not only that, but these words make up your personal, unique theme. 

Have you ever been to a wedding where you look around and think, "Wow, this is so [Insert Couple's Names Here]." That's the goal. You want your wedding to reflect the personality of you and your spouse!

If your wedding has come and gone, what were the 5 words that described your big day? If you're newly engaged and in the midst of planning, what are the 5 words you envision for your wedding day? Let's here 'em!